You catch more flies with honey than vinegar, it's said. One thing that has worked well for us as parents is charting. And one of our most successful charts is the Beautiful Heart chart.
This is Zoe about to redeem one of her Beautiful Heart charts. :)These charts are our way to recognize behavior that goes beyond actions, but is the result of a beautiful heart. We like to reward generous loving, (sharing, thinking of others), servanthood (doing a task or chore that isn't yours), etc. But the thing is, there is no formula. The things we recognize should be abnormal and a stretch and something to be recognized.
We keep it simple, just use paper we have around the house & stickers. When we run out of stickers, we color in a circle. The chart itself doesn't need to be fancy, the concept is still caught.
The good thing about it not being a formula is that your motivation for good cannot be greed. It has to be genuine. We do our best to really look at the heart behind the actions. When Zoe has filled up her chart, she does get to go to the store to pick out something fun.
We hope doing these charts affirm our girls' character and help them to become a quality ladies one day. And it seems to work well for us. So far, we just use the charts with Zoe, but as Sophia becomes older we will use them with her too. Zoe really likes getting affirmed in her character and of course picking a toy out is a bonus for her.
This is Zoe about to redeem one of her Beautiful Heart charts. :)These charts are our way to recognize behavior that goes beyond actions, but is the result of a beautiful heart. We like to reward generous loving, (sharing, thinking of others), servanthood (doing a task or chore that isn't yours), etc. But the thing is, there is no formula. The things we recognize should be abnormal and a stretch and something to be recognized.
We keep it simple, just use paper we have around the house & stickers. When we run out of stickers, we color in a circle. The chart itself doesn't need to be fancy, the concept is still caught.
The good thing about it not being a formula is that your motivation for good cannot be greed. It has to be genuine. We do our best to really look at the heart behind the actions. When Zoe has filled up her chart, she does get to go to the store to pick out something fun.
We hope doing these charts affirm our girls' character and help them to become a quality ladies one day. And it seems to work well for us. So far, we just use the charts with Zoe, but as Sophia becomes older we will use them with her too. Zoe really likes getting affirmed in her character and of course picking a toy out is a bonus for her.
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